Friday, December 16, 2011

past or present?

Lewis and his 'petite amie'  Simona

Children have this great way about them, they're outlook is so fresh , new it's all about living in the now.  Any time I've been off in a day dream I catch my son staring. Wondering what i'm doing, where is mommy looking and  I watch him turn and look into the direction I'm looking.  He's probably wondering what's so interesting. They must wonder where we go for those few seconds... I wonder about it too sometimes. How some thoughts just trigger moments where your off to another place, another time.  Yet we are quickly brought back to reality by a smile or a "mama" .  How wonderful it is to watch them discover so many new things, learning how to articulate and have you finally understand what it is they want.

No past in their eyes, not yet. It sounds crazy but it's almost like dogs. They love unconditionally and remember certain key things, and yet have this wonderful ability to live in the moment. ( gotta love Cesar Milan )  Everyday is a new day for them with new exciting things to do, and even if they aren't so new they still find the joy and excitement in it.  This is something we should do...everyday as we once did. Why do we lose the essence of this as we get older? It really shouldn't be .
Happiness should be everyday, as if it were something new. It is new ! So why not ?

“When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive—to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.”
—Marcus Aurelius


thank you kids,
thank you Cesar,
thank you Marcus ( for the amazing quote)

A domani,
L&L

Saturday, December 10, 2011

WINTER Skin





Winter weather is havoc for skin especially sensitive skin like little Lewis's. So we protect, nourish , and moisturize all the time especially in the winter. We love to be outdoors so I'm always extra careful, and with the extra warm/hot baths we take this time of year it's easy to dry up our skin. My remedy has always been and will always be ARGAN oil.
http://www.resana.ca/english/index.php .
( It's got  amazing health benefits too when ingested but i'll save that for another blog!)  
 I've been using an amazing product for years now that I was very happy to share with Lewis when he was born.  He had a few patches of eczema on his legs that quickly went away with this miracle liquid.   100% PURE and NOTHING else... You heard me , one hundred percent ORGANIC ARGAN OIL and that's it !!!  I  wouldn't trust anything else on my newborn's skin.  I don't know how these so called baby company's can manufacture "baby " products using chemicals that are toxic .
I really don't understand the concept behind all this. I feel like I have to be informed and on top of things all the time.  The other day a friend posted a comment that  inspired this blog ( thanks nanc-)  it said,
"don't believe everything you read"....
and that's exactly the way I see it.   JUST because they say it's a BABY product doesn't mean it's good for baby's ( I know this doesn't make sense for some of you, but once you start looking at things more closely you'll understand what I mean)
Now this goes for all things not just baby products, one of the reasons I stopped using facial moisturizers, among other things.  I won't list them all, I am an extremist when it comes to natural foods  and products so the list will be long .   But this is my interest, for some it's fashion, some it's decorating, some it's toys, electronics, cars, my money is spent on the most natural foods and  products I could find.
Well this is  the only moisturizer I trust to put on my skin and Lewis's! It brings life to any complexion, it's great on the whole body,  even throughout winter's toughest months is soothes and nourishes the skin.
 We love it !



Ready to glow?
L&L










Friday, December 2, 2011

More CLEAN, COZY Food !




It's getting cold outside and we've been spending  much more time indoors, which means more cooking !!!
COZY cooking is what we like to call it. Lewis loves it .... he watches in amazement as a few simple ingredients turn into fabulous meals. One of his all time favorites is "pate chinois" as we call it, or better known as "shepherds pie". Ever wonder how it got it's name, cuz it is definitely NOT an oriental dish, well this is what Wikipedia had to say about it:
Pâté Chinois is not a Chinese recipe. It may simply be an adaption of "Shepherd's Pie", but one possible explanation for the 'Chinese' reference is that it was introduced to Canadian railway workers by Chinese cooks during the building of the North American railroads in the late 19th century[citation needed]. These cooks made it under instruction from the railway bosses (of English extraction) as an easily-prepared, inexpensive version of the popular cottage pie, with the sauce in the tinned creamed-corn serving as a substitute for the gravy. The French Canadian railway workers became fond of it and brought the recipe back with them to their home communities. From there it was brought to the textile mill communities of Maine (Lewiston), New Hampshire (Manchester), Massachusetts (e.g. Lowell and Lawrence) and Rhode Island (Woonsocket) where many French Canadians immigrated to work in the mills during the early 20th century.


So interesting I  had no idea ... well there is the explanation, let me share my twist on the classic recipe!


Ingredients:

  • 1 pound Ground Bison meat ( much healthier than beef or pork check this out http://www.canadianbison.ca/consumer/Why_Bison/nutrition.htm  and yes it tastes good , I promise if you try it you'll NEVER go back to beef or anything else!
  • 3-4 Whole corns ( I like to use whole corn and cut off the kernels after boiling it , just tastes much better than canned corn and less salt!)
  • 4-5 Yukon Gold potatoes ( they are less starchy than regular and taste better too!)
  • 2-3 cloves Garlic 
  • 1 Lg  white Onion
  • 1 Tbs of Oregano and Basil  dried herb
  • 1/2 cup Cheddar cheese cubed  
  • 1 Tbs Coconut oil ( is a high smoking oil great for stir fry's and your health!!)
  • Salt and pepper to taste


Things you need:

  • Small - med. pot to boil  potatoes and corn
  • Large frying pan to cook minced meat and potatoes
  • Potato masher
  • Rectangular, deep pan to put it all together in.



What to do:

  • Peel and cube potatoes add cleaned garlic cloves and bring to a boil in pot.
  • Chop onion add to frying pan with coconut oil and let onions cook until translucent then add ground meat and herbs. When cooked remove from pan and set aside in a bowl.
  • When potatoes are cooked, ( you can easily put a fork through ) remove from pot with a straining  ladle and put into the frying  pan you used to fry up meat.  Add cubed cheddar,  let it all warm up together then mash.  Adding a little potato water if needed.  Use the rest of the potato boiling water to boil corn! I usually cut the corn  in half so it's easier to cut off kernels once cooked, and fits into the pot.
  • Cut kernels off corn and add to minced meat in bowl and mix all together.


Putting it all together:

 It's super simple,  put a layer of potato at the bottom of the baking pan, then add the corn and mixed meat mixture , and a top layer of potato and it's done!!!
Sprinkle with bread crumbs  to add extra crispiness (optional)









Stay Cozy & Toasty,
we are!!!
L&L

Friday, November 25, 2011

Clean FOOD

Well another topic I'm passionate about, CLEAN EATING. For those who have read previous blogs you all know how passionate I am about healthy eating and organic foods, so i thought i'd share another quick, healthy, nutritious meal. Do you all know the health benefits of kale?  
Excellent source of...
A great antioxidant and rich in beta carotene too ! 

Yes but lets face it at some point it's hard to get creative with it. So here is a fabulous dish the whole family will love.
First off what I like to do is when I buy kale is wash it, strip the stem off,  cut into small pieces and freeze.  It makes life a whole lot easier. 


Ingredients you will need :

  • 1 bunch kale (prepped like I mentioned above)
  • 1 large onion
  • 1/2 squash (butter nut)
  • 1 cup grated chedder (no not the orange one, cheddar is actually  like most other cheeses, the orange has coloring in it, so stick to the real thing!)
  • 3 tablespoons of flour 
  • 1/2 cup of milk
  • salt and pepper 



How to put it together:
In a deep pan layer kale, onion, grated or sliced squash, salt and pepper, sprinkle a little flour and cheese.
repeat layering till you get to the top. End with cheese and top with squash. Pour the milk over it all.
Bake at 350' for about 20 mins or till you see that it's shrunk down half the height. 
Let stand a few minutes and serve.
E voila !!!

  • quick
  • healthy
  • fun
  • CLEAN FOOD!!!



BUON  APPETITTO!
L&L

Friday, November 18, 2011

looking back....

Being a mom is so time consuming that we really don't realize how fast time goes by. When Lewis was barely weeks old  I'd be out with him and the moms I would encounter all had the same thing to say...."enjoy it cuz it fly s by"  at the time I wanted to reply "really cuz it ain't going fast enough !!!" exhausted and over worried I wondered when my next full night of thoughtless sleep would be, would there ever be a full night of sleep...??? Well almost 18 months later I"M STILL WAITING!!!! 
We're getting there,  s  l  o  w  l  y   but surely! 
  • So New moms take the time now, open up the album look back, smile, cry, laugh... and remember to take the time every once and awhile to look back...
                                            I DID : )



THEN

NOW

































 


THEN

NOW!


NOW!
THEN


THEN
NOW!




Hold the memories, and enjoy making new ones!
L&L


Friday, November 11, 2011

Last Days....

These are the last couple of days before the real cold hits and well we won't be visiting the park as often, probably not at all for a long while. Winters are so ooo ooo ooo long here in Montreal, It seems never ending!
Exactly why I really took advantage of my summer! We were at the park twice a day, having fun, swinging,  sliding and meeting other kids!!! But- it doesn't mean we have to stay indoors all winter. Last winter I was out almost every day, except those really -35 cold days,  but other than that I would get Lewis all wrapped up and off we went. The outdoors do wonders for both mommy and baby, the fresh air , seeing other people and just getting out of the house and changing the scenery helped soooo much.  This year will be different, Lewis won't be strapped to me all nice and snuggled in my coat.   I'm sure Lewis will want to walk and play in the snow for the first time! This will be a new adventure for us both!  I'm looking forward to seeing his face on the first snow fall, and the wonder in his eyes when he gets to touch snow! So many new and wonderful things to look forward to.

It`s a scary thought for a new mom, to be stuck inside all winter with a baby or toddler !!!  What will I do?? How will the day go by?? Will he get bored?? Will I get bored??  All questions I asked myself last fall when the cold started to hit, and well it really wasn't that bad. Begin by setting up a routine...
Wake up
a little relax time slowly coming out of sleep, we would read together in my bed. then
Breakfast
as I prepared something for us to eat I set him in his chair with a few toys, most of the time he wanted a spoon and bowl!( a real chef I tell you)
We eat
then some relaxing on the couch with his favorite toys or even a favorite cartoon! ( you heard me sometimes it's the only way, I love Handy Manny -now LOL)
Nap time
the beauty of babies is that they nap a lot,  so before I knew it we were back in bed all cozy!
Up and dressed  then
Lunch
we would have lunch and off we went out into the cold, all nice and bundled and warm! We would stay out for about an hour of so.
Come home
snack time with more play time
Cooking Lessons
I would put Lewis in his chair and cook up our supper , he loved watching me.  I would make him smell everything, garlic, tomatoes, onions, carrots, basil, he loved it.He would have fun playing with all the food .
Eat
we would eat , clear up and a little more play and then it was bed time routine.
Bath, story time , lullaby and nighty night for Lewis
and the couch for me,  EXHAUSTING I tell you! Well worth it!
The routine helped cuz I knew exactly what came next and so did Lewis so it made for 2 happy souls!

I really enjoyed it , make the best of it- it passes oh so fast before you know it you`ll be swinging your baby from the swing again wondering when he became a toddler!
L&L


Thursday, November 3, 2011

UPDATE

So it's been about a week since I've introduced the new method of sleep, "THE BED".
It's been very positive, He's been falling asleep with no rocking or fussing, we basically get in and do some relaxing.   I  hum or sing a few of his favorite lullabies, and before I know it he's snuggling next to be fast asleep. There have been sometimes where he's more excited and thinks it's all a big game, so I explain it to him that here in his bed we relax and do "doe, doe".  
He LOVES his room now, he's always in it, he goes there to play or just to chill on his carpet. It's so nice to see his room is now HIS room, not only in theory!!!






I have also been able to ween him off the breast milk!!!!!!!!! YES you all heard right, Lewis is finally weaned!!!16 months not bad. Not bad for this longer method of letting the child sort of decide. I basically one night offered him the bottle instead of the breast and he took it!!! I guess with all the newness he experienced this too was a new thing he was OK with. It went well, my boobies, not so well.  They were so swollen still are and I just started drinking sage tea to help with the engorgement, It's helping! He'll still ask for it from time to time, the other day,  during an afternoon nap he was awoken too early and he kept pointing and asking for breast milk.  I explained mommy has no more milk, and offered the bottle, he cried a little and then took the bottle and went back to sleep.
FANTASTIC!
It's always a little sad for both parties, I think if it doesn't stop somewhere it'll go on forever!!! We still do lots of cuddles and snuggle up close like we use to do while breastfeeding. I hope it helps. He'll eventually forget, so they say. lol  I'm guessing he'll be a future "breast man" !!!

Look for my up coming blog on POTTY TRAINING!!! (it's never too early)

Ciao for now,
L&L


Friday, October 28, 2011

THE BED







Thanks to fellow mommies, I have been able to get loads of information we mommies need!!!
A mommy friend Enza,  introduced me to a special mommy blogger.  Reading one of Jenn's many blogs,
I read this post, and went on to read the comments people left and came across this link:
So I started my research and read up on anything I could find on the Montessori bed method. I immediately fell in love with this. It got me in the right place, it felt right.
With  all this new information, off to Ikea we went.
With a few key items, I was able to figure out a way of making Lewis's room fun and a haven where he's able to play and more importantly sleep in!!!  We purchased a twin bed which I placed in the corner of his room and amazingly I was able to introduce a new, safe, independent way for sleep!  YAY! 
Lewis loves it! I made sure to baby proof the whole room, and to have his things at his level, toys and books are  accessable and he's able to get in and out of  his bed when he wants. He was in and out of the room the whole day while I was setting it up. Put in a few stickers along his walls, and poof the room was transformed! Just like that!  Previously his room was literally unused, it was a room we called the baby room but with the cage like crib and everything so untouchable it was unwelcoming to this baby, for play and most of all for sleep. 
The first night was the real test, as I explained in a previous blog, I rock him in his stroller to fall asleep to try and cut the " falling asleep at the breast"  (http://mommy-on-line.blogspot.com/2011/10/zzzsleep.html) so my fear was that if I had him next to me on the bed he would automatically ask for my breast. He didn't !!! I set him on the bed with his bottle and  lay next to him, he finished drinking and looked around,  I  just watched (and prayed) slowly he began to snuggle next to me, he tossed and turned,  sat up and looked some more. Before I knew it he was lying next to me fast asleep . How amazing ! It took about a half hour, hey I could live with that! No more stroller rocking indoors!!! The next test nap time when it's day light out and it's full time play- I used the same technique and IT WORKED!!! A total of roughly 30 mins. and he was in la la land once again!
Such a wonderful thing and I can sleep next to him when he wakes up at night . So happy I discovered this, and introduced it into our lives. I'll definitely keep you posted on the routine of it all...  It's so new right now !
So exciting to enter new fazes with these amazing beings we call kids! 

Here are more pics of the famous Montessori method:
and a few of my own! 






So exciting!
L&L

Saturday, October 22, 2011

FANTASTIC REMEDIES

Tiss the season for colds and viruses !!!
I thought I'd share the wonderful remedies I have come across and use for myself and my little guy. 
Some remedies I won't go without and I keep them on hand at ALL times.  
BIO 88 - BIO 87 from Dr. Reckeweg.
These are anti bacteria homeopathic solutions which help the common cold as well as any bacteria you may catch while away ( down south)  great for stomach viruses as well. 10 drops of each daily for adults and for our little ones (depending on age) 5 drops. (Kept us all happy and healthy when we were in Punta Cana last year!  )
BIO 93 is another one of my favs- a fantastic immune booster for fighting away infections and really any time your feeling run down. 

Also from Dr. Reckeweg ( bless his heart) R1 which helps inflammation, fever,and infection as well as R9 for coughs and sore throat. I use these combined together in a little water at the onset of any cold and within 24 hours i'm usually feeling better ( I say usually, because a cold also means time to rest, and well if I don't re coop  by resting it usually won't be as effective!)

I recently discovered another great duo of homeopathic products made right here in Quebec!!!
These just recently saved Lewis and me from a nasty, nasty green slimy cold!
RHUMALT  and  GRIS PALT  from F.L. Marc H.D.
RHUMALT is for colds, runny nose, congestion, etc. and GRIS PALT is more for flu like symptoms... fever , achy bones, overall drowsiness..etc.  well this time around we had a bit of both so we took both in intervals the cold remedy every 30 mins 5 sprays for me 1 for Lewis and the flu one we took every hour 5 sprays for me 1 for Lewis.  Within 2 days symptoms began to subside MIRACLE!!! Two beautiful products to have in the pantry this season!!!   
For overall health in general , to maintain a cold free environment, lots of vitamin C , echinacea, and vitamin D.( echinaforce junior from A. Vogel, for kids,in chew able form) Lewis loves these they taste great!

So there you have it SOME of my must haves for the season, my pantry and counter top look a lot like a homeopaths' office, or a health food store so I really can't list them all... But these are definitely the ones WE WON'T LIVE WITHOUT for this time of year!

So bundle up, stay warm,  and ARM yourselves, this is just the beginning!


L&L

Saturday, October 15, 2011

zzzsleep

You know it's been a long time since you've written a blog when.....
You forget your password to blogger.com !!!
Well, less naps and more play kept mommy and computer away!
Naps well we are now down to one, and lately if we're in the car in the afternoon he'll dose off .. Yes alone and the help of some children singing along on the radio but yup, he takes a power nap and still gets to bed on time. Magic??!! I guess, but getting him to bed is another story all together and really do we want to go there????
OK well let me share a little...
To stop the night feeding ( the feeding before he goes to bed) , I basically put him in the stroller and rocked him to sleep.   Which weened him off the first feeding at least! I got him off that habit which I replaced with the stroller rocking habit,  which i'll have to eventually replace with something else!!!
Isn't it always that way distractions, distractions and more distractions.
Well this works for now so I'm not breaking my head over it, ( I did that already).
It's so funny how after awhile you have no choice but to let loose... by shear exhaustion really.
So I'm just going with the flow of things and really it's changing his sleep habits, he's way more calm when it's bed time and sometimes he'll even initiate it by walking into the room and laying his head on the bed, as to say "I'm tired" . Amazing!!! He still wakes up like clock work, but and yes this is changing too, he doesn't drink as often so the weening IS happening naturally!!! (This is really for those of you who prefer the natural approach rather than the cry it out method, tried it way to hard and long it just didn't feel right to me at the time)
I read sooooooooooooo much material on the topic and like all other arguments there are 2 sides to it. Well I read them both and I was on the fence for awhile. I dabbled a little on the other side but jumped right back . Like I said,  not for me, not right now,  and maybe never , who knows. That's the thing with all this parenting information, why not write a standard instruction manual. How to assemble and work the baby. LOL!!! Would make IKEA 's instruction manuals seem easy !
Every topic, and question has two sides to it, with very valid points might I add. AND everyone you meet has a favorite side they want to tell you about .   (I've learned to keep my mouth shut on certain topics like sleep, vaccines and healthcare with some parents, I almost got my head chewed off at the park once for putting my 2 cents in!!!)
I won't even go near the vaccine topic!!!
But back to my sleeping topic I found this article by Dr. Sears which I thought was a breakthrough for me , on the quest of some peace to night wakings. So I thought I'd share, hope it sheds some light.

sleep tight
L&L






8 Infant Sleep Facts Every Parent Should Know

In order to better understand the how-to's of getting you and your baby toenjoy going to sleep and staying asleep, here are some important principles of sleep that every new parent needs to understand.
1. How you sleep. After dressing or undressing for bed, most adults help themselves relax for sleep by performing various bedtime rituals: reading, listening to music, watching TV, or having sex. As you drift into sleep, your higher brain centers begin to rest; enabling you to enter the stage of deep sleep called "non-REM" (non-rapid eye movement -- NREM), or deep sleep (also called quiet sleep). Your mind and body are quietest during this stage of sleep. Your body is still, your breathing is shallow and regular, your muscles are loose, and you're really "zonked." After about an hour and a half in this quiet sleep stage, your brain begins to "wake up" and start working, which brings you out of your deep sleep and into light sleep or active sleep, called rapid eye movement or "REM" sleep. During this stage of sleep your eyes actually move under your eyelids as your brain exercises. You dream and stir, turn over, and may even adjust the covers without fully awakening. It is during this sleep stage that you may fully awaken to go to the bathroom, then return to bed and fall back into a deep sleep. These alternating cycles of light and deep sleep continue every couple hours throughout the night, so that a typical adult may spend an average of six hours in quiet sleep and two hours in active sleep. Thus, you do not sleep deeply all night, even though you may feel as though you do.
2. How babies enter sleep. You're rocking, walking, or nursing your baby and her eyelids droop as she begins to nod off in your arms. Her eyes close completely, but her eyelids continue to flutter and her breathing is still irregular. Her hands and limbs are flexed, and she may startle, twitch, and show fleeting smiles, called "sleep grins." She may even continue a flutter-like sucking. Just as you bend over to deposit your "sleeping" baby in her crib so you can creep quietly away, she awakens and cries. That's because she wasn't fully asleep. She was still in the state of light sleep when you put her down. Now try your proven bedtime ritual again, but continue this ritual longer (about twenty more minutes). You will notice that baby's grimaces and twitches stop; her breathing becomes more regular and shallow, her muscles completely relax. Her fisted hands unfold and her arms and limbs dangle weightlessly. Martha and I call this "limp-limb" sign of deep sleep. Baby is now in a deeper sleep, allowing you to put her down and sneak away, breathing a satisfying sigh of relief that baby is finally resting comfortably.
NIGHTTIME PARENTING LESSON #1:
Babies need to be parented to sleep, not just put to sleep. Some babies can be put down while drowsy yet still awake and drift
others need parental help by being rocked or nursed to sleep.
The reason is that while adults can usually go directly into the state of deep sleep, infants in the early months enter sleep through an initial period of light sleep. After twenty minutes or more they gradually enter deep sleep, from which they are not so easily aroused. As you probably know from experience, if you try to rush your baby to bed while she is still in the initial light sleep period, she will usually awaken. Many parents tell me: "My baby has to be fully asleep before I can put her down." In later months, some babies can enter deep sleep more quickly, bypassing the lengthy light sleep stage. Learn to recognize your baby's sleep stages. Wait until your baby is in a deep sleep stage before transitioning her from one sleeping place to another, such as from your bed to a crib or from carseat to bed or crib.
3. Babies have shorter sleep cycles than you do. Stand adoringly next to your sleeping baby and watch him sleep. About an hour after he goes to sleep, he begins to squirm, he tosses a bit, his eyelids flutter, his face muscles grimace, he breathes irregularly, and his muscles tighten. He is reentering the phase of light sleep. The time of moving from deep to light sleep is a vulnerable period during which many babies will awaken if any upsetting or uncomfortable stimulus, such as hunger, occurs. If the baby does not awaken, he will drift through this light sleep period over the next ten minutes, and descend back into deep sleep. Adult sleep cycles (going from light to deep sleep, and then back to light sleep) lasts an average of 90 minutes. Infants' sleep cycles are shorter, lasting 50 to 60 minutes, so they experience a vulnerable period for nightwaking around every hour or even less. As your baby enters this light sleep, if you lay a comforting hand on your baby's back, sing a soothing lullaby, or just be there next to baby if he is in your bed; you can help him get through this light sleep period without waking.
NIGHTTIME PARENTING LESSON #2:
Some babies need help getting back to sleep.
Some "resettlers" or "self-soothers" can go through this vulnerable period without completely awakening, and if they do wake up, they can ease themselves back into a deep sleep. Other babies need a helping hand, voice, or breast to resettle back into deep sleep. From these unique differences in sleep cycle design, we learn that one of the goals of nighttime parenting is to create a sleeping environment that helps baby go through this vulnerable period of nightwaking and reenter deep sleep without waking up.
4. Babies don't sleep as deeply as you do. Not only do babies take longer to go to sleep and have more frequent vulnerable periods for nightwaking; they have twice as much active, or lighter, sleep as adults. At first glance, this hardly seems fair to parents tired from daylong baby care. Yet, if you consider the developmental principle that babies sleep the way they do -- or don't -- for a vital reason, it may be easier for you to understand your baby's nighttime needs and develop a nighttime parenting style that helps rather than harms your baby's natural sleep rhythms. Here's where I'm at odds with modern sleep trainers who advise a variety of gadgets and techniques designed to help baby sleep more deeply through the night -- for a price, and perhaps at a risk.
5. Nightwaking has survival benefits. In the first few months, babies' needs are the highest, but their ability to communicate their needs is the lowest. Suppose a baby slept deeply most of the night. Some basic needs would go unfulfilled. Tiny babies have tiny tummies, and mother's milk is digested very rapidly. If a baby's stimulus for hunger could not easily arouse her, this would not be good for baby's survival. If baby's nose was stuffed and she could not breathe, or was cold and needed warmth, and her sleep state was so deep that she could not communicate her needs, her survival would be jeopardized.
One thing we have learned during our years in pediatrics is that babies do what they do because they're designed that way. In the case of infant sleep, research suggests that active sleep protects babies. Suppose your baby sleeps like an adult, meaning predominantly deep sleep. Sounds wonderful! For you, perhaps, but not for baby. Suppose baby had a need for warmth, food, or even unobstructed air, but because he was sleeping so deeply he couldn't arouse to recognize and act on these needs. Baby's well being could be threatened. It appears that babies come wired with sleep patterns that enable them to awaken in response to circumstances that threaten their well being. We believe, and research supports, that frequent stages of active (REM) sleep serve the best physiologic interest of babies during the early months, when their well being is most threatened.
NIGHTTIME PARENTING LESSON #3:
Encouraging a baby to sleep too deeply, too soon, may not be in the best survival or developmental interest of the baby. This is why new parents, vulnerable to sleep trainers' claims of getting their baby to sleep through the night, should not feel pressured to get their baby to sleep too long, too deeply, too soon.
6. Nightwaking has developmental benefits. Sleep researchers believe that babies sleep "smarter" than adults do. They theorize that light sleep helps the brain develop because the brain doesn't rest during REM sleep. In fact, blood flow to the brain nearly doubles during REM sleep. (This increased blood flow is particularly evident in the area of the brain that automatically controls breathing.) During REM sleep the body increases its manufacture of certain nerve proteins, the building blocks of the brain. Learning is also thought to occur during the active stage of sleep. The brain may use this time to process information acquired while awake, storing what is beneficial to the individual and discarding what is not. Some sleep researchers believe that REM sleeps acts to auto-stimulate the developing brain, providing beneficial imagery that promotes mental development. During the light sleep stage, the higher centers of the brain keep operating, yet during deep sleep these higher brain centers shut off and the baby functions on her lower brain centers. It is possible that during this stage of rapid brain growth (babies' brains grow to nearly seventy percent of adult volume during the first two years) the brain needs to continue functioning during sleep in order to develop. It is interesting to note that premature babies spend even more of their sleep time (approximately 90 percent) in REM sleep, perhaps to accelerate their brain growth. As you can see, the period of life when humans sleep the most and the brain is developing the most rapidly is also the time when they have the most active sleep. One day as I was explaining the theory that light sleep helps babies' brains develop, a tired mother of a wakeful infant chuckled and said, "If that's true, my baby's going to be very smart."
7. As they grow, babies achieve sleep maturity. "Okay," you say, "I understand this developmental design, but when will my baby sleep through the night?" The age at which babies settle – meaning they go to sleep easily and stay asleep varies widely among babies. Some babies go to sleep easily, but don't stay asleep. Others go to sleep with difficulty but will stay asleep. Other exhausting babies neither want to go to sleep nor stay asleep.
In the first three months, tiny babies seldom sleep for more than four-hour stretches without needing a feeding. Tiny babies have tiny tummies. Yet, they usually sleep a total of 14-18 hours a day. From three to six months, most babies begin to settle. They are awake for longer stretches during the day and some may sleep five-hour stretches at night. Between three to six months, expect one or two nightwakings. You will also see the period of deep sleep lengthen. The vulnerable periods for nightwaking decrease and babies are able to enter deep sleep more quickly. This is called sleep maturity.
NIGHTTIME PARENTING LESSON #4:
An important fact for you to remember is that your baby's sleep habits are more a reflection of your baby's temperament rather than your style of nighttime parenting. And keep in mind that other parents usually exaggerate how long their baby sleeps, as if this were a badge of good parenting, which it isn't. It's not your fault baby wakes up.
8. Babies still wake up. When babies mature into these adult-like sleep patterns varies among babies. Yet, even though babies achieve this sleep maturity some time during the last half of the first year, many still wake up. The reason? Painful stimuli, such as colds and teething pain, become more frequent. Major developmental milestones, such as sitting, crawling, and walking, drive babies to "practice" their new developmental skills in their sleep. Then between one and two years of age, when baby begins to sleep through the above-mentioned wake-up stimuli, other causes of nightwaking occur, such as separation anxiety and nightmares.
Even though you understand why babies are prone to nightwaking, you realize it's still important for parents and babies to get a restful night's sleep, otherwise, baby, the parents, and their relationship won't thrive.


Saturday, July 9, 2011

where is mommy???

Finally after a full year i can say i'm finally finding myself!
After feeling trapped in this woman's body, deformed from childbirth and still carrying around what i'd like to call baby weight, is a body that lost it's spirit. Once there was a spirit, one which had carefree nights without worry and structure or routine for that matter! NOW after such a long time I can honestly say I'm feeling like my OLD self again, or is it a NEW self??? Whatever it is,  being a mommy is,  and well was,  really hard for me.  I thought by abandoning myself to being a mom would be the best thing for my baby, and now as he gets older I realize that the mom he needs is one who can be a roll model . I need to be tip top, and feeling great about myself (so much pressure I tell you)  A couple of months ago I made the decision of getting back to my healthy weight, my healthy ways and my healthy attitude of taking things with stride.
WHY did it take me soooooooo long???
Well the important thing is that I'm here now and doing all the work it takes to be great on the outside,  so I can be great on the inside. Does that make sense? Well if I didn't feel good about me,  I wasn't much fun to be around (that's no fun for kids now is it!!!)- OR ANYONE FOR THAT MATTER!!!  I've began my journey back to ME so I can share all the good things with my boy! It makes mommy and little Lewis a whole lot happier!!!

My words of advice to my new moms.... get back on track soon....   Get that expensive haircut you so  deserve or that massage your body is in dire need of,  get the membership at the gym you wanna cut from your budget, or better yet get them ALL!!!!

I waited too long .....
the feeling is sooooooooooooo rewarding.


L&L



  

Monday, June 13, 2011

A CONVERSATION...

"how did you ween your daughter off the breast?
lewis is now one , i know crazy, and he stopped taking the breast during the day for the most part, but a night still wakes every 2 hours .  any advice, and one more thing did you ever let her "cry it out" i'm finding this one hard to even consider but thats what a few moms have told me about!
big kiss
L&L"

This is a question I asked one of my oldest and dearest friends who mommies like I do. I know we're on the same wave length when it comes to most things so I e-mailed her one night in the midst of yet another new mommy crisis, here was her tear jerking reply. I cried!!! I bet we all wished our moms were like this, I'm sure there will not be one inch of insecurity in Maya she's got a super MOM!!!
Thanks sandr, for letting me share your words of wisdom!!!!


her reply:

"hey lor... i've never let her cry it out... i know the modern thing to do is to let them "cry it out", but my natural instinct was always to just go to her... i know a lot of books will say that but there also books that believe if babies are crying and want you or need to be rocked - then so be it, it's for a reason - they want to be with you period... there is no such thing as spoiling a child too much in that respect - in my opinion. so what if he falls asleep in ur arms... or in ur bed.. etc............. he won't want that forever... trust me - maya is a big girl now :) ...... they are small once. 
there's an older lady that works with me (her son is like 26 now)...  she would let her son cry it out and regrets it big time - never having put her son to bed (and staying with him) or bringing him into her own bed.... 

as for weening her off the boob.. i basically had a conversation with her... she was 2 and 10 months so it was easier for her to understand at that point.. i never used the old "ur a big girl now"..  i basically told her that my boobies were sore (BUT i made sure she understand that it wasn't her doing - v important) ... and that we had to stop. she cried a little at night and at nap time.. but i held her ,and rocked her and kissed her till she fell asleep.. and by the 3rd night she had forgotten all about it!! amazing! she never asked to nurse after that ever again. i would put her to bed and rub her back till she fell asleep! i still do :) we're always on the go.. busy with with school and work so i make sure that bedtime is special and full of love and kisses, and massages. i get in bed with her till she sleeps :) do what's right for you.. what ur gut tells you.. forget books.. forget people... pretend ur a cavewoman with no access to books or internet ;) instinct will kick in.. hehe..

mwaaaaah!! hope this helps!!!!!!! :)))))"


I hope these words help you as much as they helped me they knocked sense into my over tired head!!!!

signing off

CAVE WOMAN

 how could you not rush over with this face!?